OK, so we have a rule at 52freedates that you must say yes to a first date when someone asks you out. Everyone is worth spending a coffee's worth of time with, yeah?
Well I'm bailing on this one.
I had to cancel my date on Saturday with MR. EAGER because my sore throat flared up, making it hard to talk. And he called me three more times after that. On Sunday, when he knew I was recovering from the sore throat. Then he tried to friend me on facebook, which you can't really do without knowing my fake name. So someone gave that to him.
Somebody please tell this guy that EAGER turns into DESPERATE when you haven't met someone yet but have already emailed 10 times, sent 15 photos (including one of his fireplace, which he assumed we'd be sitting in front of after our dinner), called 4 times, and started making plans for us to get together the next day as well.
DESPERATE is not sexy. It is not fun. It is not date material. I hope his friend tells him to chill the heck out, because he's setting himself up for a lot of frustration if not.
I did go to a party on Friday and met new folks, which might lead to more first dates. Right now my Friday night is open and I have a feeling it won't be for long!
Monday, January 31, 2011
#6, #7 and #8 for Batgirl
One exciting and tiring weekend under my belt and am now getting ready for yet another snowy drive to work. Will it ever stop? The news just reported that it's snowed 27 days in January! But, that hasn't stopped the dates!
My only planned free date was to support a friends new "non-brewpub brewery". It's the first one in the twin cities. For more info: www.harrietbrewing.com The brewpub was open for 4 hours with music and growler sales of their new IPA. Lots of socializing with strangers and speaking about beer. My date Bryan accompanied me and while both of us are not hot on hoppy beers, we still supported our friend with the purchase of the growlers.
On to Saturday night and no plans. Got a call from Date #1 at 530 asking me to see the MN Swarm which is a professional lacrosse team. The energy, showmanship and athleticism of these guys made for an exciting night. It didn't hurt that we had suite tickets that were sponsored by the team themselves. I met the owner and chief marketer. Both between 10-15 years younger than me! Free food and drinks too. At the end of the evening, Date #1 wanted to come in for a "night cap". As we all know, unless you actually want to make out, you shouldn't allow the "night cap" to happen. Which I didn't.
Now, to Sunday where one more blind date happened at a local coffee shop (Anodyne) in S. Minneapolis. The date lasted a surprising three hours where conversation flowed freely. He is an interesting person which a background similar to what I once looked for in a man. Military, MP, DEA, a bit rough around the edges, likes the color RED and is pursuing a degree in Chiropractic. As I've grown older, it's very hard for me to tell if there is any future after just one date though. Have you noticed this ladies? Sometimes, I need 4-5 dates and definitely must kiss before a final decision is made!
My only planned free date was to support a friends new "non-brewpub brewery". It's the first one in the twin cities. For more info: www.harrietbrewing.com The brewpub was open for 4 hours with music and growler sales of their new IPA. Lots of socializing with strangers and speaking about beer. My date Bryan accompanied me and while both of us are not hot on hoppy beers, we still supported our friend with the purchase of the growlers.
On to Saturday night and no plans. Got a call from Date #1 at 530 asking me to see the MN Swarm which is a professional lacrosse team. The energy, showmanship and athleticism of these guys made for an exciting night. It didn't hurt that we had suite tickets that were sponsored by the team themselves. I met the owner and chief marketer. Both between 10-15 years younger than me! Free food and drinks too. At the end of the evening, Date #1 wanted to come in for a "night cap". As we all know, unless you actually want to make out, you shouldn't allow the "night cap" to happen. Which I didn't.
Now, to Sunday where one more blind date happened at a local coffee shop (Anodyne) in S. Minneapolis. The date lasted a surprising three hours where conversation flowed freely. He is an interesting person which a background similar to what I once looked for in a man. Military, MP, DEA, a bit rough around the edges, likes the color RED and is pursuing a degree in Chiropractic. As I've grown older, it's very hard for me to tell if there is any future after just one date though. Have you noticed this ladies? Sometimes, I need 4-5 dates and definitely must kiss before a final decision is made!
Friday, January 28, 2011
"2 degrees of separation"
i heard a great quote tonight. minneapolis is so small, we only need two degrees of separation. and boy is this true! a friend of a friend is enough to keep you going in dates for weeks. so....off to another free date at a friends new micro brewery tomorrow. stay tuned for details and hopefully photos this time!
in the meantime....visited the varsity for the first time to see the alarmist and the kitty kat club for the 4th time to see another friend's band. so, by nature of working where i work, i am attached to two bands with only one degree of separation.
have i mentioned that i love it here? also, still accepting dates! email 52freedates@gmail.com for an appointment:)
in the meantime....visited the varsity for the first time to see the alarmist and the kitty kat club for the 4th time to see another friend's band. so, by nature of working where i work, i am attached to two bands with only one degree of separation.
have i mentioned that i love it here? also, still accepting dates! email 52freedates@gmail.com for an appointment:)
Thursday, January 27, 2011
my first "blind date"
The "blind date" is happening this weekend. My date is a friend of a friend and he sent me about 15 photos of himself. They were all > 450k so took a while to actually download them. He also used some VERY EXCITED looking text in each message. He's either going to be VERY expressive or he's into typestyles. Ok, joking aside, I think he's going to be a hoot.
He proposed a spendy dinner date in the first email and then in the 2nd asked that we go dutch. Since this blog is technically about going on FREE dates, I'm not sure how that's going to fit the requirements. We might have to do the free date later. Yeah, it's backwards but nobody said that was breaking the rules.
Meanwhile, I got a phone number from another guy last week that I should probably call by now. It's been what...5 days?
;-P Hatgirl
He proposed a spendy dinner date in the first email and then in the 2nd asked that we go dutch. Since this blog is technically about going on FREE dates, I'm not sure how that's going to fit the requirements. We might have to do the free date later. Yeah, it's backwards but nobody said that was breaking the rules.
Meanwhile, I got a phone number from another guy last week that I should probably call by now. It's been what...5 days?
;-P Hatgirl
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
nonverbal cues
So what non-verbal cues tell you someone is interested? Guys? Dustin? Anyone?
Looks like I'm about to be set up with someone new, stay tuned.
Hatgirl
Looks like I'm about to be set up with someone new, stay tuned.
Hatgirl
Sunday, January 23, 2011
first date deets
Okay readers,
So I finally asked out this guy a friend had introduced me to a while ago. I was immediately intrigued when we met, and felt I wanted to know him. As soon as I found out the coast was clear (I knew he wasn't in a relationship) I went for it.
....I love (and make) art, so natch I suggested an art opening. It's social, especially when the wine is flowing, there's usually great people watching and of course one or both of you will know someone there. The show was beautiful and had a large turnout so the energy was high.
I loved the fact that he offered to pick me up, take me out to dinner after the art opening, and emailed me several times before our actual date. I could tell that he was enthusiastic. So much for playing it cool ;-)
We did a lot of "getting to know you" conversation since neither of us did much research ahead. (This btw is part of my dislike of dating websites, where everyone writes this shiny profile, edits out all the messy shit and makes him or herself look like the best thing since sliced white bread. ) We just started from scratch the old fashioned way. There was definitely chemistry between us and conversation flowed easily through the night. We went out for a lovely dinner at one of my favorite places in town - he asked me to choose - which was indulgent and spectacular. Wowza!
After dinner we hung out and talked for another couple hours. He is a very self-reflective and intellectual person that has followed diverse paths of his own choosing ~ and I found myself identifying with many things he talked about. I knew we were going to see more of each other!
The next night it turned out that we'd both been invited to the same costume party so we had a chance to connect in a different setting. It was nice to be in a less intimate situation since two nights in a row is a lot when you're getting to know someone. Also fun was seeing Batgirl show up with her date from last week....or was it this week? I can't keep track. Everyone got to meet everyone and the guys talked "ag" while we had an awesome time dancing.
We left things open, i.e. no plans, and he left earlier than I did. Now it feels like the ball is in his court - I would be totally psyched if he wanted to get together again! I can also feel the world is my oyster now so I'm open to whatever good stuff wants to show up.
Hatgirl
So I finally asked out this guy a friend had introduced me to a while ago. I was immediately intrigued when we met, and felt I wanted to know him. As soon as I found out the coast was clear (I knew he wasn't in a relationship) I went for it.
....I love (and make) art, so natch I suggested an art opening. It's social, especially when the wine is flowing, there's usually great people watching and of course one or both of you will know someone there. The show was beautiful and had a large turnout so the energy was high.
I loved the fact that he offered to pick me up, take me out to dinner after the art opening, and emailed me several times before our actual date. I could tell that he was enthusiastic. So much for playing it cool ;-)
We did a lot of "getting to know you" conversation since neither of us did much research ahead. (This btw is part of my dislike of dating websites, where everyone writes this shiny profile, edits out all the messy shit and makes him or herself look like the best thing since sliced white bread. ) We just started from scratch the old fashioned way. There was definitely chemistry between us and conversation flowed easily through the night. We went out for a lovely dinner at one of my favorite places in town - he asked me to choose - which was indulgent and spectacular. Wowza!
After dinner we hung out and talked for another couple hours. He is a very self-reflective and intellectual person that has followed diverse paths of his own choosing ~ and I found myself identifying with many things he talked about. I knew we were going to see more of each other!
The next night it turned out that we'd both been invited to the same costume party so we had a chance to connect in a different setting. It was nice to be in a less intimate situation since two nights in a row is a lot when you're getting to know someone. Also fun was seeing Batgirl show up with her date from last week....or was it this week? I can't keep track. Everyone got to meet everyone and the guys talked "ag" while we had an awesome time dancing.
We left things open, i.e. no plans, and he left earlier than I did. Now it feels like the ball is in his court - I would be totally psyched if he wanted to get together again! I can also feel the world is my oyster now so I'm open to whatever good stuff wants to show up.
Hatgirl
Saturday, January 22, 2011
#5 for Batgirl
Dare I say that Little Rabbit could easily become a Little Habit? A change in plans due to cold weather! We originally planned to attend "Overheard in Minneapolis" at the Huge Theater but the freakishly cold weather (even for Minneapolis) and the accompanying snow storm prompted a night in with Saturnes, Cold Souls and tons of conversation. The night ended late (or early depending on how you view mornings). And the best news of all....Pixie found another lap to snooze on!
Headed off for a last minute free date at the album cover art show sponsored by Macy's at 11am. More to come. The art show was small but the company was fun. A good friend for sure.
The big surprise of the evening came from a last minute invite to the Guthrie because a caver friend couldn't find a "rea"l date. It was my first trip to the Guthrie and watching Romeo and Juliet set in the early 1900's was aamazing! Met up with Little Rabbit for a late night dinner at Sea Change which would've been excellent had my mussels not had potato chips crunched up in them!
Off to a costume party where we ran into Hatgirl and her sexy date from Friday night. Our dates got to know each other while we danced. Typical men!
Also more to come is the first update from Hatgirl who had a hot date with a cool dude last night! Hopefully, she's into kissing and telling:)
Headed off for a last minute free date at the album cover art show sponsored by Macy's at 11am. More to come. The art show was small but the company was fun. A good friend for sure.
The big surprise of the evening came from a last minute invite to the Guthrie because a caver friend couldn't find a "rea"l date. It was my first trip to the Guthrie and watching Romeo and Juliet set in the early 1900's was aamazing! Met up with Little Rabbit for a late night dinner at Sea Change which would've been excellent had my mussels not had potato chips crunched up in them!
Off to a costume party where we ran into Hatgirl and her sexy date from Friday night. Our dates got to know each other while we danced. Typical men!
Also more to come is the first update from Hatgirl who had a hot date with a cool dude last night! Hopefully, she's into kissing and telling:)
Monday, January 17, 2011
Date #2, #3 and #4?
Okay, so this blog should be about "free" dates but this weekend, it turned into a LOT of dates. Starting with a surprise date on Saturday night seeing the return of Date #1. The evening started out at Coopers in West End, celebrating a friends 29th birthday. Food and company were excellent! And oh...to be 29 again! The girls still partied like the sorority sisters they once were. After Coopers, we moved to the Lodge in Robbinsdale to see Brat Pack Radio (free cover charge!). TC'ers....go see this band whenever you feel like dancing and don't forget to wear spandex, acid washed something and fingerless gloves. I miss you Madonna! Date #1 called while we were dancing and within a few minutes, joined us for more drinks. He's definitely friend material but I'm afraid that's where the line must be drawn.
Sunday brunch with C at a very kitschy placed called Hot Plate. Awesome food and funny paint-by-numbers art covering the walls. Great conversationalist but again, only friend material. The chorizo breakfast burrito and pumpkin buckwheat waffle were amazing though.
Thanks to a friend from work, a last minute blind date was set up for Sunday night. After a few emails and some stalking on LinkedIn, I knew I was headed for a challenging but rewarding date. The conversation flowed easily and for the first time in a long time, I felt a nervous giddiness that still makes me smile. We met at Beaujo's Wine Bistro in Edina which is a small, warm, local-friendly French bistro with excellent food and service. Two hours flew by but before the end of the evening, I hoped I'd made it clear that another date would be welcome. Followers, as an inside joke, he'll be called "Little Rabbit".
Sunday brunch with C at a very kitschy placed called Hot Plate. Awesome food and funny paint-by-numbers art covering the walls. Great conversationalist but again, only friend material. The chorizo breakfast burrito and pumpkin buckwheat waffle were amazing though.
Thanks to a friend from work, a last minute blind date was set up for Sunday night. After a few emails and some stalking on LinkedIn, I knew I was headed for a challenging but rewarding date. The conversation flowed easily and for the first time in a long time, I felt a nervous giddiness that still makes me smile. We met at Beaujo's Wine Bistro in Edina which is a small, warm, local-friendly French bistro with excellent food and service. Two hours flew by but before the end of the evening, I hoped I'd made it clear that another date would be welcome. Followers, as an inside joke, he'll be called "Little Rabbit".
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Weekend Update
So, I may have joined a dating service based on advice from a friend who tried the same service and had lots of dates! I did and I have a date!
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| New Business Card! |
His name is Chris and we're meeting for brunch this Sunday. It's the "cheapest brunch in the City" which doesn't exactly meet my "free" criteria but comes close.
BTW....I was also set up on a blind date for Sunday. Sunday will be a busy day! Stay tuned for date details on Sunday night!
Are the business cards tacky? I smile when I see them. Let me know what you think!
Friday, January 14, 2011
The Cute Contractor at Work
I have no idea if he's married, gay, etc but since neither Hatgirl or I have a date this weekend, it might call for serious measures.
What about: "Hi, pardon me, but you seem familiar. Did you go to high school in Arizona?"
or how about: "Hi, look seem familiar, is your name Brad?" secretly hoping his name isn't Brad. Too many bad experiences to consider dating Brads anymore!
Anyone have any suggestions on breaking the ice?
Also, I work in a building with almost 400 people and I don't usually speak with anyone in Finance. Would it be okay to date someone in that department or should I stay away from dating workmates?
What about: "Hi, pardon me, but you seem familiar. Did you go to high school in Arizona?"
or how about: "Hi, look seem familiar, is your name Brad?" secretly hoping his name isn't Brad. Too many bad experiences to consider dating Brads anymore!
Anyone have any suggestions on breaking the ice?
Also, I work in a building with almost 400 people and I don't usually speak with anyone in Finance. Would it be okay to date someone in that department or should I stay away from dating workmates?
Monday, January 10, 2011
timing is everything
I attended several art openings and a yoga class this weekend, and saw a couple of men that I would have liked to ask out. But I think it takes more than one brief conversation to ask someone out. The timing seems key also to avoid awkwardness.
What do you folks think?
How do Minnesotans ask someone out?
cheers,
Hatgirl
What do you folks think?
How do Minnesotans ask someone out?
cheers,
Hatgirl
Accepting Dates!
Hatgirl and I are hoping to get more dates with your help! If you have friends that might be crushing on us or you have a blind date opportunity, we are accepting emails!
The email address is 52freedates@gmail.com
Hatgirl and I will accept all FIRST dates provided the "datee" is not married, separated or recently divorced. The game just got more interesting!
The email address is 52freedates@gmail.com
Hatgirl and I will accept all FIRST dates provided the "datee" is not married, separated or recently divorced. The game just got more interesting!
Sunday, January 9, 2011
#1 Date at Powderhorn365 Art Event
The date: A friend of a friend who I met over 2 years ago and recently reconnected with. He's well spoken and probably should be since he makes his living as a radio host of a popular sports show. And this was his first art opening! I have to admit, I was a little nervous we'd run into lots of people that he knows since everyone I know seems to know him, his celebrity crushes, etc! Luckily, we didn't run into hordes of people which gave us the chance to talk.
Irony regarding the "free" date: after the free art show, we hit Bradstreet Bar inside the Graves Hotel which is probably the most expensive place in town for drinks. But, the bartenders are pure magicians and the drinks are heavenly. Although I'm more of a local dive bar date, seeing how the other half drinks was a treat! A very enjoyable evening and you were a fun date....thank you HL!
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Choices - First Date
Knowing that my date has described himself as an "inner city, metrosexual", I challenge you to help me decide where to take him:
1. Speed rapper, Carnage CD release party at 5th Element (totally FREE).
2. Inappropriate Vaudeville at Bryant Lake Bowl ($6 per ticket) note: I've also texted back and forth with him and the word "inappropriate" has come up. This event might be very appropriate.
3. Ka-Baam Improvised comic book antics featuring heroes suggested by the audience at the Huge Theater ($10 per ticket). I have a very eclectic comic book collection and the cover might be worth watching them struggle to come up with antics related to Warrior Nun, Preacher, Lady Mechanika, etc...
Signed,
Batgirl
1. Speed rapper, Carnage CD release party at 5th Element (totally FREE).
2. Inappropriate Vaudeville at Bryant Lake Bowl ($6 per ticket) note: I've also texted back and forth with him and the word "inappropriate" has come up. This event might be very appropriate.
3. Ka-Baam Improvised comic book antics featuring heroes suggested by the audience at the Huge Theater ($10 per ticket). I have a very eclectic comic book collection and the cover might be worth watching them struggle to come up with antics related to Warrior Nun, Preacher, Lady Mechanika, etc...
Signed,
Batgirl
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